Who is your confident? Is it a friend or your spouse? How much of your secrets can u share with ur spouse? Love, they say is about giving and sharing, which can only thrive where is mutual trust, understanding and effective communication between the partners. So, who better can u share ur secrets with other than the one u claim to love, cherish and share ur body with? The one who is supposed to know you inside out.
There are several things a husband and wife cannot and must not say to each other. A lot of women have made these mistakes while the going was good, onl to regret doin so later on.
A woman must not say that because she is in love and wants to be true to her husband, then start to run her mouth anyhow. A lot of men are just balls, that is the way they were created by God. They are only strong and proud, not a lot of them have guts to stomach emotional issues like women, especially when it comes to sexual matters. Dis area is very important cus it is the binding rope between a man and a woman. A woman can commit all sorts of atrocities outside her home and she will be pardoned, but when it comes to infidelity, it is not an area men joke with at all, even when the man is not good at it, cannot even do it at all, or is not living up to his financial obligations, he will still be fighting over dis thing. So, issues concerning sex are not things a woman can joke with and discuss anyhow.
For instance, a woman must not go on discussing her past lovers with her husband. this is like rubbing injury as she will only end up hurting her pride. A man loves to believe even though he knows it is not true, that he is the only man who knows his wife in and out. she must also not introduce past lovers to him. Meeting other people who also knows what he does can only bring about jealousy and unwanted suspicion.
In most cases, this also backfired in the sense that the man starts misbehaving and recalling all that he'd been told. Men by their nature are more jealous and less tolerant than women, that is why a man can have more than one wife and the woman will not flip over themselves. It is impossible for you to see a woman married to more than one husband. If she is, it will be secret. The day the others know, they may just kill her or kill each other.
A man is even allowed to talk about dis sort of thing, but a woman can't cus nobody will understand why she has done so. If a husband and wife should catch eachother red handed in a hotel both with different partners, it is the wife that will losse her face, she is the one that can not return home without having people come and plead on her behalf, and that too depends on if the husband agrees or not.
So, women should be very careful when narrating her past to her friend or spouse.
